The “Nikah” is the most prominent & essential ceremony in a Muslim marriage.
The word “Nikah” in Arabic means “conjunction or uniting” it’s the official account of marriage between the bride and groom. A nikah in Islam is an act of “Sunnah” and is highly recommended.
Allah states in the Holy Quran,
“And among His signs is this, that He created for you mates from among yourselves, that you may dwell in peace and tranquility with them, and He has put love and mercy between your (hearts): Verily in that are signs for those who reflect” (Quran 30:21).”
The Nikah’s official binding is considered essential in an Islamic marriage; this is known as “Nikah Nama” to Muslims. It outlines the rights and responsibilities of the couple entering the marriage.
On the blessed subject of marriage, the Prophet Muhammad (P.B.U.H) said:
“O you young men! Whoever is able to marry should marry, for that will help him to lower his gaze and guard his modesty.” [Al-Bukhari]
“Marriage is my sunnah. Whosoever keeps away from it is not from me.”
In a typical Muslim tradition, Nikah takes place before the wedding day and sometimes it can also take place on the day of the wedding. In some families, the bride signs the papers beforehand, and remains at home with her maternal family. According to Sunnah and tradition, Nikah mostly happens in a masjid (mosque) where the groom and the people from both families are present to complete the nikah. Majority of the people prefer having the nikah ceremony before the actual wedding as it makes the wedding day less demanding.
A nikah ceremony is attended by the bride and groom’s close family members, relatives and friends. Usually, the men and women are made to sit separately, in different rooms, or have a parda, or curtain, separating them. The couple wears simple and elegant clothes and the bride wears light makeup.
The process of marriage is simple, the “Nikah” is performed by a pious person, can be a good Muslim maulana (priest). The wedding is witnessed by two male persons, gawah (witness) from each side and a lawyer, the Maulana will ask the bride is she is happy for the wedding and happy to marry the groom. The same question is asked from the groom. If both say yes, then a selected piece about marriage from the Quran is read and the couple signs the papers in the presence of their witnesses.
Islam encourages its followers to announce a marriage and to celebrate this wonderful relationship between a man and a woman. Secret weddings are discouraged in Islam and they are said to be imcomplete, nikah is said to be a social activity. The Prophet ﷺ said:
“Declare this marriage, have it in the masjid and beat the drums.”
This ritual has loads of tears and hugs involved, as finally, the precious girl who was brought up with so much love, is going to another home, she will be the groom’s “wife” now officially. The relatives and parents of the bride are tearful as they see their daughter sign the marriage papers. The groom’s side is seen laughing in joy at the addition of a new member in their family. They all hug him happily one by one in line.
What we observe nowadays is that, many selfish people especially in Pakistan cancel the part in the marriage papers where the rights of the bride are proclaimed in detail. Dear brothers and sisters please recognize that this is WRONG. Many girls are fighting against this practice today, but some are still unaware.
Women rights are very strictly described in Islam; not only the groom but even the bride has a right to seek divorce and can also demand full compensation (Haq-mehar). We must not proceed with a blind eye or haste in such matters.
Team BandBajaBarat very openly protects these rights, the girl must be allowed to read her wedding documents and put forward her own wishes before she agrees to the marriage.
Both the bride and groom have the liberty to define various terms and conditions of the “Nikah” according to their own liking.
Additionally, a person who has the power or choice of getting a boy or girl married is called a Wali (guardian). Islam has declared first wali of a boy or girl to be their father. If the father is not present, the grand-father becomes their wali. If he is not present, then the great grand-father. If none of them are present, the blood-brother becomes their wali, and so on.
So, once the blessed “Qabool hai” (I do) is uttered in the presence of Wali’s and the respective two male witnesses from each side, the marriage bond (Aqd-Nikah) is then announced publicly with the distribution of khajoors (dates) and mithai sweets.
With this, sometimes, the couple exchange rings and the wishes begin pouring in, loud chants of “Mubarak ho” “Mubarak ho” (Congratulations) is repeated among both families.
The right of “Mehar”
The Mehar (marriage-gift) is a divine injunction. The giving of mehar to the bride by the groom is an essential part of the bond.
The Quran says:
“And give the women (on marriage) their dower as a free gift; but if they, of their own good pleasure, remit any part of it to you, take it and enjoy it with right good cheer. [4:4]”
So, to put it in a nutshell, Mehar is not a bride’s price, it’s a commitment token of the husband’s responsibility. In the Qur’an it is called “sadaqah” which means a token of friendship and may be paid in cash, property or movable objects to the bride herself. The amount of mehar is specified these days in the marriage documents, however, we must seek both families’ consent before deciding the Mehar. It may be paid immediately to the bride at the time of marriage, or deferred to a later date, or a combination of both. The deferred mahr however, falls due in case of death or divorce.
Compatibility before Marriage or Nikah
It’s narrated by Hazrat Abu Huraira that, Prophet P.B.U.H said,
“A woman may be married for 4 reasons: for her property, her family status, her beauty and her piousness in religion, blessed are those that marry her because of her deen (piousness).”
These days, the growth in divorce rates is due to mismatching between the partners. The Islamic Sharia has taken great precautions in ensuring that Nikah with an incompatible person or a person of a lower social standing does not take place. In other words, do not perform the Nikah of a girl with a man who is not equal to her in status or who is of no match to her, or vice versa.
BandBajaBarat can help you find a match which is fully compatible and preferred by you. Our users can log in as parents seeking for good proposals for children or even as the prospective girls or guys. We are glad to announce that our superior match making mechanism is always ready to serve the people seeking successful marriages.